Conflict can be connection.
We need to fight better.
Conflict isn't the enemy. It can be an invitation to clarity, connection, and change. But most of us haven’t been taught how to fight well. We’ve inherited patterns, reactivity, and avoidance tactics that leave us feeling powerless or regretful.
Here’s the truth: A fight is just a conversation stripped of options.
With the right tools, conflict stops being a battleground and becomes a space for transformation. Our trainings give you those tools — drawn from psychology, negotiation, and even improv — to help you stay grounded, speak clearly, and navigate the messiest moments with purpose.
Don’t avoid conflict. Learn to fight better.
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Conflict Survival Guide
Don’t let conflict catch you off guard. Whether it’s a tense moment with a loved one, a tricky team meeting, or navigating a boundary with a friend, having the right tools can make all the difference. It’s time to stop dreading difficult conversations — and start mastering them today.
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Practice the worst-case scenarios before they happen. Free, every week, online.
The first rule of Fight Lab is always talk about Fight Lab.
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Do some conversations leave you angry, scared, or feeling helpless?
The ADC course is here to help you turn those tense moments into opportunities for connection and growth. With expert guidance, real-time practice, and a supportive group of peers, you’ll learn how to approach conflict with research-backed tools for transformation.
This isn’t just another communication course — it’s a live, dynamic gym to help you handle conflict, give powerful feedback, and foster trust. Join us where breakthroughs happen in real time, and leave with tools to build stronger relationships, teams, and communities.
Fight. Better. Together.
Coming Fall 2025
Let us know if you're interested, and we'll contact you when the training goes live.
Self-Paced Courses
Navigating Challenging Relationships
Good boundaries can be the difference between shutting down and staying in when conversations get tough. Learn how to connect with those who aren’t so skilled at connection, how to stay centered when you experience a trigger, and how to practice top-notch self-care.
$67.00 USD
The Art of Difficult Conversations
Self-Paced Edition
Designed for leaders, teams, and individuals who care about creating meaningful connections and thriving cultures, this program lets you learn at your own pace while mastering the skills to lead with clarity, empathy, and confidence. Through real-world examples, interactive tools, and expert guidance, you’ll turn miscommunication into understanding, conflict into innovation, and feedback into fuel for progress.
Coming Summer 2025
Downloads to Read
The ADC Manual
Accompanying text for the Art of Difficult Conversations course. This 70-page e-book helps you navigate conflict with anyone in your life. Inside, you’ll find meticulously researched interventions, practices to try, stories, and lots of memes.
$20.00 USD
Power Mapping Guide
Unlock the invisible dynamics of power in your relationships. With practical exercises and reflective questions, this guide gives you the tools to navigate power dynamics with confidence and insight.
Free
Fight Lab Playbook
Stop avoiding conflict — start using it. The Fight Lab Playbook offers practical exercises and reflective prompts to help you turn tension into growth. Join one of our free labs to practice real-life conflicts before they happen, rework past ones, and build skills to stay grounded in the heat of the moment. This brave, trauma-informed space equips you to fight better, together — at home, at work, and beyond.
Free
Articles & Inspiration
Don't Fight About Your Feelings
by Sara Ness
Here’s how the average fight goes.
“You hurt me.” “You hurt me too!” “Let’s fight until we feel better.”
Perhaps you, too, will stare at the above and think there’s something wrong.
It’s a rare fight that makes you feel better, at least in the short term. If you do feel better it’s usually not because of the act of fighting, it’s because of being heard, or...
How to Get Anyone to Do Anything
by Sara Ness
When I was 20 years old, I catalyzed a worldwide movement of human connection. I have since trained the leaders of Fortune 50 companies such as Google and Dell to be more empathetic and authentic in their work, and held extended internal trainings for Mindvalley, Rebel Wisdom, and the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration. My work has been used by...
Consensual Nasty Communication
by Sara Ness
In the Authentic Relating community I emotionally grew up in, there were Good kinds of communication and Bad ones. Good communication was consensually negotiated, kind, curious, and slow. Bad communication was whatever our parents had done: usually fast, intense, and scary. Good communication was Safe; bad communication was Violent...
