There was a time, not so long ago, when curiosity felt like an impossible skill for me. I would sit in a conversation, racking my brain for anything I could say. The only options were to talk about myself - which felt awkward unless they’d asked - say a non sequitur, or come up with a question...

and how to make it more likely that they will Anytime I create an event and people don’t show up, I have a little voice in my brain that says: “It was me, wasn’t it? I didn’t create a good enough event. I don’t have enough social cred. I have, in some way, secretly offended all of these people an...